With Nnaemeka following a more modern path to marriage and rather than having a wife chosen for him by his father prefers instead to choose who he is to marry. On the other hand, his son Nnaemeka has moved to the modern city of Lagos and looks at the world in a completely different way.
Ugoye is chosen by Okeke to marry Nnaemeka. Symbolically this may be important as it suggests that Okeke does not give any recognition to Nene. Acceptance is also a powerful theme of the story as Okeke begins to understand that he lives in a new reality and that old traditions, prejudices and ways of thinking need to be set aside in a rapidly changing modern world.
She is allowed to express herself. No equality may exist between male and female within the village. Whereas in Lagos Nene as mentioned has her own voice and is not hindered by Nnaemeka. What is also interesting about the story is the role that women play in the village.
She is given no option and is following the dictate of her father and Okeke.
Throughout the story Okeke also shows signs of being stubborn. Taken from his Girls at War and Other Stories collection the story is narrated in the third person by an unnamed narrator and from the beginning of the story the reader realises that Achebe may be exploring the theme of modernity and tradition.
Refusing to even acknowledge Nene either before or after she marries Nnaemeka. In a broader scope, it also involves a conflict between generations and cultures. Which would further highlight to the reader just how important tradition is to Okeke. No longer is he against the marriage and it is noticeable that Okeke begins to fear that his isolation of Nene has resulted in him also shutting out his grandchildren from his life.
In essence the women of the village are silent. The reality being that life in the village may revolve around traditional gender roles with the male being dominant. Rather than seeing his son happy he remains rooted to tradition.Marriage is a Private Affair by Chinua Achebe 16 Nov Dermot Chinua Achebe Cite Post In Marriage is a Private Affair by Chinua Achebe we have the theme of modernity, tradition, control, conflict, stubbornness, gender roles, independence, change and remorse.
The attitudes in the story are hostile, sad and simple minded, while the attitudes I have written down are the same.
Sharing Interpretations: What is the irony of the stories tittle? The tittle states marriage is a private affair, whereas in the story it seems everybody knows about Nene and Naemeka’s marriage. This story burst with conflict. Marriage is private affair 1. Nnaemeka sees the marriage as an affair as her wife does not belong to his husband’s race and some of her actions contradicts with their race religion and his father will surely disapprove the marriage.
Nene believed the marriage was not an affair as she believe marriage is a happy thing and parents will be happy about their child’s marriage.
2. An essay or paper on Marriage is a Private Affair by Chinua Achebe. In "Marriage is a Private Affair" by Chinua Achebe and "Love Must Not Be Forgotten" by Zhang Jie, they explore the problems of individuals seeking love and fulfillment in a changing culture.
According to eNotes, the theme of a piece of literature is "the central and dominating idea in a literary work." In the case of "Marriage Is a Private Affair," the main themes are family and tradition.
In fact, we can combine these themes into one truth that resonates in the story: family trumps tradition. Marriage is fundamental,it's a private affair, the author tries to show that marriage means different things in the different cultures also marriage and private are interchangeable it mean two or more people get into contract, whereas in some culture it also a unity establish between two or more people.Download